Self Leadership - Are You in Charge of Your Life?

Are you running your life or is life running you? If you are not in charge and directing your life who is? In order to play the game of life we have to understand the rules of the game.

When most of us think about leadership we think of leading or being in charge of others but how are we able to do this if we are unable to lead ourselves first. Like everything in life we have to start with ourselves first before we are able to pass it on to others.

It is easy to work out if you are in charge of your life; the outer always reflects the inner

This means that everything in your life is a reflection of you and your concept or idea of what life should be.

Ask yourself these questions that will help you evaluate if you are in charge:

• are you happy most of the time?
• do you look after your physical body?
• are your finances well organized?
• is the environment you live in tidy and enjoyable to be in?
• do you have respect and good communication in your work?
• are your relationships loving and without game playing?
• do you have more good days than bad days?
• do things in your life go smoothly or is it full of drama?

"I create my world"

Everything we do is a reflection of who we are whether we like it or not. If there is an area in our lives that is not working it does not mean we are bad people or failing it just means we need to change the way we do things.

Change can only come through awareness. Unfortunately a lot of us have never been taught the skills we need as a child to be leaders of ourselves and have had no role model to see real self leadership in action. Our parents do the best they can as their parents did before them.

I have seen many people in management or leadership roles, and while they have the necessary qualifications or experience in the area that is required, they are unsuccessful in their leadership and management of others, often resulting in hostility or confusion. This is because they are playing the role of being a leader instead of realising they can only lead by example.

By making a conscious decision to change and having a plan of action that is carried out with consistency and patience you will start to recognise changes taking place. Accept that you already have everything you need on the inside to be successful.